“Patience is also a form of action” ~ Auguste Rodin
It’s tricky being a woman. We tend to carry the weight of the world on our shoulders and believe we’re responsible for everything around us.
Our children make bad decisions and we question our parenting skills.
A business deal falls through and we wonder how we could have saved it.
A partner is acting strange and we assume it’s somehow our fault.
As women and mothers, we have the power to influence the emotional wellness of those around us, especially our loved ones. Yet, we often take on this responsibility at our own expense.
I took an unexpected and unwelcome hiatus from this blog due to a series of events and circumstances which have shaken my emotional foundation and left me temporarily at a loss for words. Over the last several months two beloved family members have passed away and, as if that isn’t enough to manage, I’ve been named in an ugly, costly and time-consuming lawsuit. As a result, any sense of “normalcy” seems to be lost for the moment.
Despite the physical, emotional and financial trauma surrounding my present circumstances, there are still bills to pay, deadlines to meet, meals to prepare, and a never-ending pile of laundry calling my name. And there is a hard truth to face: It’s time to truly accept that life sometimes brings circumstances beyond my control.
I realize it’s time to stop trying to control my circumstances, and return to the care of the ONE THING over which I have some control… myself.
To me, caring for myself means the occasional, unapologetic soak in the tub with a gin and tonic and a trashy gossip magazine. It means sleeping in ‘til noon from time to time, adding a line item for massage to my monthly budget, and giving myself permission to walk away from the computer in favor of back-to-back episodes of Glee with my son. As a mother, business owner, and the sole bread-winner in my family, these are guilty pleasures I rarely allow myself and I’m realizing… maybe it’s time I should!
What guilty pleasure can you allow yourself today? Choose a good one and please, share it in the comment section below for other Wize Mamas to see.
Life can come at us pretty fast and, as women, we feel it deeply when things aren’t going as planned. Here’s to liberating ourselves from the need to be the mothers of humanity. And here’s to nurturing ourselves with what we need to be and feel our best.
It’s good to be back.
Much love until next time,
Delila
