Today I got a question from a mama who is growing weary of the daily struggle with her young daughter, who insists upon wearing shorts and tee shirts to school. Mom is concerned that her daughter won’t be warm enough, now that brisk autumn weather is upon us, but her little one is committed to making her own choices . How can this mama allow her child the freedom to express her own clothing preferences, while also looking out for her safety and comfort?
As adults we are accustomed to juggling many options, but it’s important to remember that too many choices become overwhelming to a young child. As parents we can ease the child’s burden of responsibility by limiting choices to only those that are appropriate for them. For example, once the weather changes it’s time (for the parent) to pack away shorts and tees and any other seasonally inappropriate clothing until the return of warmer weather. Any item of clothing which is not suitable for a brisk autumn day, or for school, should be removed from dressers and drawers, thus limiting the child’s choices and allowing for greater independence with fewer power struggles. To read more suggestions on this subject, Click Here.
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Until next time,
~Delila
My daughter was a perfect example of the child wanting to wear tanks and shorts in 45 degree weather.After removing all the clothing that I did not feel was weather or school appropriate the battles have all but stopped. I have let go of my need to see her dressed in well matched things and if she wants to wear the same thing day after day, she may(if it is clean!).She is happier getting ready each day and so am I!