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    Questions are the Answer?

    peaceful parentDear Wize Mamas & Papas,

    As some of you know, I offer consultations with families. The idea is to get parents the support they need to experience more harmony and less frustration at home.

    I’m fascinated by the questions I get to ask…. designed to expand awareness and inspire parents to explore their feelings at a deep level. I think these are questions every parent should revisit now and then, to keep us mindful of our personal purpose and unique vision for our families.

    I’ve chosen a few of the most thought-provoking questions to share here, and I invite you to ponder each one for yourself.

    If it stirs anything up for you, let me know… I’d love to help.

    1. What are the core values and beliefs of your family? What is most important to you?
    2. How is your home set up to be comfortable and functional for every member of your family?
    3. In what situations do you wish someone would hand you the “official book of parenting” and, what is it about these situations that tends to overwhelm you as a parent?
    4. What about your child inspires you the most?
    5. What about your child mystifies you?
    6. What do you most want your child to remember about you as a parent?

    And as always, this blog is about sharing diverse views on parenting… feel free to answer any of these publicly or add some of your own questions to the dialogue.

    Let’s talk!

    ~Delila


    True Confessions: My Child Plays with Guns

    cowboy celeryOn the day I handed down my beloved baby doll Tina to my toddler son, she died twice…first in a hit-and-run with his dump truck and later by drowning. Recalling the time my younger brother had scalped that very same doll, her demise at the hands of my tiny son elicited a lecture so shaming I’ve (thankfully) erased it from memory.

    My precious little one was all boy, though he had never seen television or movies or violent images in books. Elliott was raised in a carefully prepared environment rich with sensory activities to engage his curiosity. His shelves were filled with puzzles and blocks and art supplies, not guns and swords and pirate ships. We avoided gender stereotypes, rarely even dressing him in blue.

    So where did this fascination with violence come from?

    I don’t recall the first time I uttered the enlightened and oh-so-above-it-all mantra, “We have a peaceful home. We don’t even pretend to play with weapons here. Everybody has the right to be safe.”  But I do remember my son  retreating from me time and time again to avoid hearing those words, while attempting to hide a carrot-stick sword or paint brush pistol from my view.

    Eight years of education and training under my belt and I felt hopeless and ill-equipped to parent my own child.

    Some experts suggest that by forbidding imaginary gun play and other such activities, parents increase children’s interest by driving it underground and thus create a situation where children feel they cannot safely express their feelings and impulses. While others advise parents to prohibit toy weapons altogether, I was unable to find any study linking pretend gun play with an increased incidence of violent behavior in adulthood.

    Michael Thompson, Ph.D. (author of Raising Cain) has this to say: What we know is that boys in all cultures around the world wrestle more, mock fight more, and are drawn to themes of power and domination, but that’s not the same as hurting someone, so it’s not necessarily a cause for worry.”

    At some point I had an epiphany. What if Elliott’s intrigue with weapons indicated a natural impulse to gain control of his circumstances, and nothing more?  And what if my own feelings of guilt and shame about his interest in these things could be far more damaging than any run-in with a rubber sword?

    In my mind I was merely passing on my values, but what if my lecturing and nagging had damaged his self-esteem?

    My son’s interest in guns was not a passing fancy; he is naturally drawn to mechanics and strategy, and to power. What has changed is my response.  When I realized the toll it was taking on our relationship, I vowed to stop shaming Elliott. And to talk less and listen more. By stepping down from my soapbox, I now know my son better and can respect his varied interests – which include piano and literature, crocheting and cats.

    Last summer  Elliott invited me target shooting.  Even though it was only Airsoft, I said “no thanks,” in a tone that spoke volumes. He quickly countered, “Mom, guns are just tools. You don’t have to be afraid of them. Shooting at targets isn’t hurting anyone. It’s fun.”  I allowed him to be my teacher that day.  He demonstrated proper handling and gun safety with total acuity and, no doubt anticipating another eco-lecture from me, vehemently assured me that the pellets would biodegrade “within a reasonable time frame.”

    Holding a gun felt awkward until my first “hit,” which was accompanied by an unexpected surge of adrenalin.  I glanced at Elliott who, grinning more broadly than ever, proudly exclaimed, “Mom, don’t you think it feels kind of good when you hit the target?”  I had to be honest. Hitting the target did feel good.

    What transpired on the way home was a delicious helping of parental bliss. He uttered the words “Thank you for taking an interest in this, Mom. I know it was a stretch for you.”… and meant it. In that precious moment, ‘all boy’ didn’t seem ‘all bad.’

    I know the conversations that might  spring from this topic are broad in scope and emotionally charged. And that’s exactly what Mamawize is aiming for… so please, respond with your thoughts, insights, and personal experience. This blog is all about having real, honest, diverse discussions… parent to parent.

    Talk to me…

    ~Delila


    The Potential to Overcome Childhood Stress

    Hey wize mamas,

    stressed kidToday’s post is for parents who seek practical and positive solutions for children dealing with the stresses of modern living. We already know about the profound benefits of a healthy diet, regular exercise, and sleep. But sometimes these are not enough.

    I met Dr. Jerry Schlesser and his wife Christine many years ago when our boys attended the same Montessori preschool.  Dr. Schlesser was well respected for his unique nutritional formulations but, until recently, I had no idea about the real life impact of his research and clinical experiences with children. Here’s the story in a nutshell:

    Seven years ago Dr. Schlesser was approached by experts in criminology and education to assist them in exploring an untested approach to education reform.  The concept was to design a clinical study structured around the use of a proprietary dietary supplement targeted at improved academic performance and social behavior in children.

    The first school chosen for the study, Anthony Elementary in Kansas, was on the verge of closing due to poor academic performance and high rates of violence, and anti-social behavior.  The violence statistics at that time were six times the state average (9.3% versus 1.45%).

    The clinical results were nothing short of extraordinary, boasting an overall reduction in anti-social behavior and improvement in academic performance in students who regularly received Dr. Schlesser’s Kids Potentialformula. To learn more about the school study, take a look at the Fox News video on the Advantig website.

    To be honest, my son is already a good student and we eat a relatively healthy organic diet. That said, like most parents I am concerned about dietary and environmental factors, including higher and higher levels of stress in children and adolescents, which pose a threat to physical and cognitive development. Here’s what I’ve noticed in the 6 weeks or so since my son started taking Potential™ in the morning with breakfast:

    • He almost always awakes alert and energetic. Sometimes he even finds a few extra minutes to sit down and practice piano before heading off to catch the bus before 7:00am.
    • He easily completes his homework and has time for talking with friends and spending time with family.
    • His stress level – about schoolwork, especially – has decreased.
    • He is more cooperative, willingly helping with household chores without  argument or resistance.

    Potential™, like all the products in the Advantig line, is free of fillers, wheat, soy, dairy, gluten, sugar, lactose, animal products, artificial colors, artificial flavors, salt, starch, MSG, trans fatty acids or preservatives. And it’s full of good things, including:

    • Multi-source minerals including calcium, magnesium, zinc, manganese, chromium and molybdenum. Also included: Selenium – an important antioxidant for brain function; Iron – an essential nutrient in a unique form that supports healthy brain development and; Taurine – an amino acid that acts as a protective nutrient against environmental toxins, and positively affects brain chemistry regulating nerve function, neurotransmitter activity and behavior.
    • Unique Antioxidant blend with a high ORAC value – including bilberry, blueberry, cherry, cranberry, elderberry and red concord grape skin – all known to be beneficial for brain and nerve function.
    • Full-spectrum, food source Vitamin E – with a bio-potency twice that of synthetic Vitamin E.

    I purchase Advantig products locally at Healthy Spaces in West Linn, OR – where you can also find lots of other useful items for a healthy family and healthy home.  You can also find them online at Dr. Schlesser’s Advantig website.

    What strategies do you employ to help your children deal with dietary deficiencies and environmental stresses? Please post your comment to share your insights and experience!

    Until next time,

    Delila


    Kindling the Flame of Creativity


    creative kidsThe creative is the place where no one else has ever been…What you’ll discover is yourself. ~Alan Alda

    This is dedicated all who tirelessly pursue the creative process. I hope you’ll take a moment to respond with your insights and ideas, and your creative inspirations!

    Creativity involves learning techniques and exploring pathways and discovering one’s unique passions and gifts. For some, creativity is a state of being in the world.

    Have you ever experienced a moment of inexpressible, ineffable… something… while immersed in a creative process like singing or drawing or writing?  I say these are the magical moments which keep us anchored to our life dreams and overarching goals. These are the moments we wish for our children, and what inspires us to enroll them in piano and art.

    My creative course took a turn twenty five years ago, while observing a group of Montessori preschool children at work and play. I had an epiphany about the vital creativity at work in children; creativity which was not bestowed by a teacher but rather discovered, explored and nurtured by the children themselves.

    Creativity is about impulse and passion and choice.  It’s about freedom and flow. It’s about beauty. And it’s about keeping the flame alive. Here are a few  practical tips for encouraging creativity in children and families. What are your favorite tools and tricks? Please take a moment to post your comment:

    Provide Opportunity and Choice.

    When a spark of creativity is ignited, it’s nice to have some expressive tools and materials at your fingertips. By providing a space and materials with which to work, your child can experience the freedom of choosing how to express a creative impulse or idea. I recommend providing a variety of supplies, organized in boxes or baskets, on a low shelf that is accessible to every member of the family.  Here are some of the basics:

    • Paper – a wide variety of colors and textures and sizes.
    • Easel – great for painting, chalk, and for large collage projects
    • Magazines or catalogs; photos – great for collage
    • Pencils, markers, crayolas and/or oil pastels, and chalk
    • Paints (such as tempura and watercolor)
    • Scissors – different types, including those with fun-shaped edges
    • Glue – squeeze and stick varieties; and a hot glue gun for older kids.
    • Clay – Earthen or Fimo (polymer clay) for sculpture
    • Popsicle sticks – or craft sticks – great for a variety of projects
    • Seasonal items, like autumn leaves, holiday wrap, glitter, stickers… anything goes!
    • Cloths or rags – a basket full for clean up – and a place to put the dirty cloths
    • Plastic or vinyl placemats – to protect works spaces from paint, glue, glitter etc.
    • Aprons – one to fit every artist in the house :)

    Establish and Uphold Clear Guidelines of Use.

    No parent wants to find tempura paint on the ceiling or clay in the carpet.  Simple guidelines/rules are necessary for maintaining order and keeping everyone safe, but should not inhibit creativity.  These three simple rules allow the individual a large measure of creative liberty within clearly defined limits:

    1.      Respect for Self

    2.      Respect for Others (anyone around me)

    3.      Respect for Environment (immediate, local and global)

    Any activity or creative expression that is not respectful of the individual, others, or the space (environment) should not be allowed.  If a material is purposefully misused – like when paint appears on the ceiling, walls or in a siblings hair – it should be removed for a time, and brought back only if the child agrees to use it appropriately.

    Demonstrate Basic Techniques: Creative people have mastered specific techniques that allow them to express their unique spirit and creative process. Take the time to demonstrate the basic use of each artistic tool – i.e. pencil, scissors, paintbrush, clay, glue, etc. – before inviting the child to use them independently.   Once the techniques have been demonstrated, the child may explore other ways to use them, or use them in combination.

    Respect the Creative Process at Work. As anyone who has ever observed the activities of very young children can attest, they are process-driven creatures.  It’s not at all unusual for a child to spend 30 minutes creating a painting, only to leave the finished product behind, forgotten. This is the natural course of things for the young child, who moves with ease from one activity to the next, immersed in the process of exploring and becoming. It can be difficult for an adult to imagine a child being propelled solely by their own curiosity and inner guidance, and yet when left to their own devices, they are.

    Invite Open Dialogue. Children, like adults, don’t always want to talk about their process… and that’s ok.  Trust that your child’s creative explorations may take them to places you have not been. Get curious and, when they do share about their experience, do your best to listen without judgment. Judgment, whether positive or negative, stifles creativity.

    Offer Observations and Avoid Praise. The well-meaning adult who swoops in to praise  a child who has produced a product is establishing a pattern of unhealthy dependence on adult approval.  Such a pattern is easily established and difficult to break. Some experts suggest that children who receive regular praise from adults are less confident, less independent, initiate fewer activities on their own, and take fewer (creative, social and intelletual) risks.

    However, well placed and objective comments about the child’s process can have the opposite effect, supporting the development of healthy self-esteem. The difference is that praise is totally subjective and places a judgment on the child, while objective comments make meaningful observations of the child’s process,  inspire greater introspection and allow the child to gain confidence in his true abilities. Here is an example of the difference between subjective praise and objective comments:

    • Subjective Praise: “Wow! You are a great artist!”
    • Objective comment: “ I notice you used a lot of blue.”
    • Objective comment: “I see a pattern of lines and circles.”
    • Objective comment: “You worked for a long time on this painting!”

    Get Friendly with Error and Avoid Judgment.

    Judgment stifles creativity. Humans learn and progress through exploration, experimentation, and by making mistakes and trying again. From this perspective, errors are good indicators of positive progress! Mistake is not a dirty word, despite what we may have learned in school, and Right and Wrong are subjective terms. That one person (even if that person is a parent or teacher) does something in a certain way should not preclude another person from trying it another way.

    Explore Your Own Creative Process. Allow your child to see you experimenting, exploring, and expressing your own creative spark.  Paint, draw, and build crazy sculptures and colorful collages.  Have fun!

    A favorite collaborative activity: Commemorative Collage

    • Gather family members around an open workspace at a table or on the floor
    • Invite every family member to cut or tear out photos (from magazines or catalogs) which depict what they like about life, family, etc.  Remember… there are no right or wrong answers or images!
    • Once everyone has selected a few images, take turns affixing (glue or glue stick) the images to a small or large poster board.
    • Words can be added as well; older family members can write for those who don’t know how.  The words can be absolutely anything anybody wants to say about family.  It only has to make sense to the person offering it.
    • Choose a common area in which to post the collage, where every member of the family can see and enjoy it.  Someone might even choose to add another image later on.
    • This same activity can be done with family photos or memorabilia to commemorate a birthday or holiday, or the passing of a favorite pet.
    • Suggestion: Ring in the New Year with a family collage to commemorate 2009!

    Enjoy! Until next time,

    Delila


    Celebrating with Children

    Hi Wize Mamas,

    jackolanternToday is Halloween, which means we are still in the midst of my favorite season… autumn. However,  when I walked into my local Fred Meyer the other day I  was stunned to discover racks of holiday decorations and tinsel and lights. At my house we’re still harvesting tomatoes and raking leaves. December celebrations are distant on the horizon. But not for the mega-corporations intent on capturing our hearts and our dollars.

    Always a season ahead, advertisers welcome the approach of the winter holidays with a vigorous attempt to capitalize on our desire to create memorable family rituals. While a central premise of marketing is that buying things will make us happy (not!),  a study of materialistic values among children determined that kids who have the most in a material sense tend to be the least generous, the least content, and less confident  (From Natural Life Magazine, March/April 2008). This revelation comes as no surprise to any parent who has witnessed the tearful tantrums of a child caught up in the vicious cycle of  begging for “things” – candy, toys or the immediate object of their desire – only to discover that the joy at having acquired the thing is fleeting and empty. 

    We can turn off the tube  (good first step) but we can’t control the commercialism which presses in through magazines and retail stores – and which bombards our children with images that depict values that may differ from those we want to impart.  However, as parents we can offset the manipulative power of advertising by providing our children an abundance of real, meaningful moments in which to anchor their developing values and beliefs. These kinds of moments – those spent with family and friends, sharing meaningful rituals – weave the true emotional fabric of life.

    In our Montessori classrooms we find many events and occasions worthy of celebration, including the loss of a tooth; the changing of the seasons; the sprouting of a seed; the birth of a child; and the historical milestones of many cultures. We honor each of these with equal reverence and without regard for commercial hype which may surround its arrival.  We share  stories, music, and artistic expressions of many cultures and celebrations as dictated by the natural interest of the children, the cycles of the seasons, and the  values of the school community.

    We connect as often as possible with nature, a shared experience through which we can explore lessons in history and culture and the ongoing story of our humanity. For the winter holidays we explore the seasonal changes in the earth as well as various cultural expressions of the time, including but never limited to celebrations of Christmas, Hanukkah, Los Posadas, Kwanzaa, Diwali, and the Winter Solstice.  Songs, stories, and pictures on our walls may reflect aspects of these cultural celebrations, all of which inspire further explorations and conversations. Some children may have personal stories, music, or a special project to share and we welcome these.

    Because young children are easily overwhelmed by too much activity, we keep our celebrations simple, short and meaningful; and we maintain the regular routines and rituals to which the children are so deeply connected.

    Here are a few simple suggestions to inspire meaningful moments and family traditions:

    Take a brisk walk outdoors to collect objects from nature – pinecones, autumn’s last leaves, rocks and twigs – and collaborate to make a festive winter table decoration.

    Keep a family Gratitude Journal: each day at the same time – after dinner or before bed works well – every member of the family can share one thing for which they are thankful, and another member can record them. If you have children who are old enough to write, they will delight in being the one to record these daily “gratitudes.”

    Volunteer: discuss ways in which your family might be of service to others – preparing and delivering a meal to an elderly person; volunteering at a soup kitchen; or creating a gift box for a child in need are wonderful ideas –  and make it a yearly tradition for your family to participate in some such volunteer activity.

    Host a cookie swap among friends and neighbors: make the baking a collaborative experience with your children, as well as the sharing of what you have made. The message: there is as much joy in giving as receiving.

    Feed the birds: find a recipe for making your own bird food or bird feeder (large pinecones smeared with nut butter and rolled in birdseed make a tasty treat for birds) and hang them in a place where you can observe what happens.

    Happy Haunting :)

    Delila


    Swine Flu: Putting the Panic in Perspective

    swine flu

    Hi Wize Mamas,

    My son recently had a case of (what looked like) the Swine Flu. I can’t be sure because it acted like any other flu:  fever, aches, diahhrea, vomiting.  He was miserable for a day and puny for 3 more days. I administered the tried-and-true “Wet Sock Treatment” (pioneer remedy for fever we’ve been using since Elliott was an infant), gave him big doses of Vitamins C and D along with lots of fluids and extra love and attention. He was back in school after several days but soon began complaining of chest pain.  He now has a confirmed case of pneumonia and has been sent back to bed with a strong dose of antibiotics ( first in 12 years, thank goodness) and orders for more rest. I don’t like using drugs, but in this case the remedy felt appropriate for the situation and the detrimental effects can be countered with probiotics and acupuncture.

    I share this story because I think it’s a pretty common one.  We can all get run down and over-committed and we can all get sick.  When we see our children sick we can easily go to place of panic and worry, and may even temporarily lose touch with our intuitive sense of  what’s best.  It’s how we deal with our concern that makes the difference. Balancing facts and information against our intuitive mama-sense is an important aspect of our work as parents.

    Recent dramatic news stories and alarming CDC alerts provide a perfect breeding ground for parental panic about the possible ramifications of the latest scary virus: H1N1 or “Swine Flu.” It can be difficult for even the most informed mama to sort out facts from hype as the  public controversy rages on between those entities promoting the vaccines to treat what they have labeled a frightening pandemic, and those reporting equally alarming stories of people suffering life-threatening consequences of the vaccines.   It’s a lot to sort out, especially when the health of our children is at stake.

    Like most parents I’ve been pouring over article after article, searching for the best course of action for my family.  I’ve just read what I consider to be a well- informed and balanced view of this current “crisis.”  Dr. Krista Anderson-Ross ND shares important information about Swine Flu and how to Keep Your Family Healthy.  Krista is a Montessori trained educator with many years experience working with young children and families;  she is mama to three beautiful, healthy children; and  she is a Naturopathic physician with a practice in Portland OR.   Thanks to Dr. Anderson-Ross for offering so many practical tips, tools and healthy recipes for busy parents on her blog: www.wholefoodmatters.blogspot.com.

    It’s not always easy to know what to do – is it ever easy? – and that’s why I believe coming together and sharing as a community is so important. I hope you’ll post a comment to tell us about what cold and flu remedies work best for your family, as well as your insights about how we can make informed health decisions for our families.

    Until next time – stay healthy!

    Delila


    The not-so-sweet Truth about Sugar

    Greetings of Autumn,

    toxic candyYou’ve probably heard some of the negative buzz about sugar… hasn’t every parent?  Sugar is said to significantly suppress the immune system;  cause hyperactivity, moodiness and anxiety; raise cholesterol and weaken eyesight; contribute to obesity and osteoporosis; raise blood pressure and cause blood sugar imbalances; lead to diabetes and other autoimmune disorders; cause depression; and advance the aging process.  Sound like a dangerous drug?  Refined sugar may not be classified as a drug, but it might as well be… it’s effects can lead to physical addiction and serious health risks such as those listed above. No kidding.

    As parents we find ourselves doing battle with an aggressive media machine for which our little ones are a fast growing market. Fortunately, if we choose carefully and choose well, we don’t have to restrict our children from eating sweets.

    My friend and (Montessori) colleague, Dr. Krista Anderson-Ross ND, shares more about this serious issue – as well as offers some healthy eating tips and fantastic recipes for kids and adults – on her excellent blog www.wholefoodmatters/blogspot.com. Check it out and stay tuned for an upcoming post in which Dr. Anderson-Ross will address truth, fallacies and strategies for managing flu season.

    Until then, be well!

    Delila


    How to Subscribe to this Blog

    Hey Wize Mamas,

    Subscribing to the MamaWize Blog is easy using the RSS (Really Simple Syndication) feed. Here is how it works: look at the top right section on any page on the blog, keeping your eye out for the little orange, square icon which looks like this: You’ll see the word SUBSCRIBE beside the icon.  You can click on either.

    When you click you will be taken to a page where you can choose the way you would like to receive your updates – such as in live bookmarks (within favorites), Microsoft Outlook, Google, or Yahoo accounts .  Once the selection is made, click Subscribe Now. You don’t have to worry about receiving too many messages; you’ll be informed only when the Blog is updated. You will never receive spam emails.

    Subscribing to the blog is a convenient way to get updates about new articles and topics of interest to you. I hope you’ll subscribe, and I hope you’ll join our conversation!

    Until next time,

    Delila


    Separation Anxiety: when it’s hard to say goodbye…

    Hey Wize Mamas,

    sad kiddoWhew! Writing this post took me back to my son’s first day of Montessori school… eleven years ago. That doesn’t seem possible!  I can still feel myself fighting back tears as I mustered a bright and enthusiastic send off as my “baby” hurried off to join his new friends.That first day was relatively easy for him, but incredibly difficult for me.  Separation anxiety is no fun for parent or child, but it is a natural part of growing up.

    Babies and toddlers go through an anxiety phase (usually, between 7 – 24 months) because they have not yet developed an understanding of object permanence, meaning; they don’t yet understand  that mamas and papas and other important people continue to exist even when they are out of sight.

    This kind of anxiety sometimes appears again, briefly, when children start school. By this age (3 and older) the child does understand that people go away and come back again, but may need extra reassurance that familiar objects and people will reappear when the school day is done. Once trust is established – they know mama or papa will return to pick them up after school – the child can let go of anxious feelings and move into the school day with a sense of confidence.

    No matter how wonderful the school and the teacher may be, the first day of school represents something new and unknown in the life of the child, and also in the life of the parent.  Therefore, the way in which parents prepare for and communicate about this big change is a critically important factor in the child’s experience.

    Here are a few timely tips for easing first-day-of-school jitters:

    • Read a book to encourage your child’s questions and prepare for the experience of going to school – it’s nice to do this many times before the first day of school arrives.  Check out Sam and Gram and the First Day of School by Dianne Blomberg.
    • Make sure your child gets plenty of sleep; push bedtime back, if necessary, to assure your child awakes calm and happy and with plenty of time to dress, eat breakfast, and get out the door without feeling rushed or anxious about the time. Click for some additional tips on creating healthy bedtime rituals.
    • Involve your child in preparations for school, such as helping to pack a lunch and laying out clothing the night before, and preparing breakfast in the morning. Allowing the child to be fully involved in the process instills confidence and positive feelings about the new school experience. Click for some additional tips on dressing for independence.
    • Engage in pleasant, positive car conversations – be sure to convey your excitement and confidence in your child’s new school. And remind them that you’ll be back to pick them up, after their fun day at school.
    • Turn off your cell phone, so you can give your undivided attention to your child and facilitate a smooth transition. Same goes for pick up – when you are talking on your cell phone you are not being present for your child.
    • Once at the classroom door, share a short goodbye – a warm hug and a kiss, and a reminder that you’ll be back when school is out. Remain positive and enthusiastic, even if (especially if) your child seems reluctant. Prolonged goodbyes are difficult for the child and the parent, and do not help the transition to school. Same goes for peering through the window or lingering in the parking lot – if your child sees you doing this, it will only indicate to them that you are not comfortable and, therefore, they won’t be comfortable either.
    • If your child is having difficulty entering the classroom or is unwilling to physically separate from you (you know, like when they are wrapped around your pant leg…), allow a teacher to assist. Remember, pre-school teachers have lots of experience with just such a scenario.
    • If your child eats lunch at school, it’s really lovely to include a simple note – something like:  “Dear Elliott,   I love you.  ~Mama” This is a meaningful ritual which provides a nice touchstone to home and family while fitting in nicely with the child’s experience at school.

    Most parents feel a mixture of joy and sadness as the child reaches each new level of independence. As difficult as it may seem to send your little one off to their new school for a few hours, keep in mind the reasons you chose this experience for your child.

    Wize Mamas – what are some tips can you share for easing first-day-of-school anxiety, or for when those “I don’t want to go to school!” days rear their ugly heads?  Please join the conversation!

    Post your comments by clicking on the title of this post (above) and then clicking in the comment box (below).

    Until next time,

    Delila


    Are Schools Killing Creativity?

    Wize Mamas,

    I just viewed a video on TED which really captured my imagination and got me thinking -  and I think you’ll see why (link below).

    Sir Ken Robinson, Ph.D., challenges the way our public school systems educate our children and champions educational philosophies – such as Montessori and Waldorf – which cultivate creativity and allow children to discover their own true interests and passions.

    “We have to rethink the fundamental principles on which we are educating our children..  to see our children for the hope that they are… to educate their whole being so they can face the future… and make something of it” ~Sir Ken Robinson

    Click to hear Dr. Robinson’s throught-provoking talk on TED.

    What can schools do to encourage creativity and creative thinking in children? Post your comments by clicking on title of this post (at the top) and then filling in the comment box (at the bottom).

    Until next time,

    Delila

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