Comments on: Questions are the Answer? http://mamawize.com/2010/02/questions-are-the-answer/ Real Conversations with Parents Sat, 10 Apr 2010 01:42:51 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Dia http://mamawize.com/2010/02/questions-are-the-answer/comment-page-1/#comment-123 Dia Thu, 18 Feb 2010 03:39:41 +0000 http://mamawize.com/?p=494#comment-123 THANKS DIANE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THANKS DIANE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

]]> By: Erin Donley http://mamawize.com/2010/02/questions-are-the-answer/comment-page-1/#comment-92 Erin Donley Mon, 08 Feb 2010 16:53:38 +0000 http://mamawize.com/?p=494#comment-92 As usual, I love your posts Delila... even though I'm not a parent. This made me think about my own parents and how the best thing they can do is show a genuine interest in what I'm doing... which means they have to actually understand it, even if it's beyond their own experience. I find when they pretend to be interested, I can tell, and that's when the disconnect begins. I would explain more, if they'd ask more questions. I know this is a random comment... maybe it'll help a parent out there. As usual, I love your posts Delila… even though I’m not a parent. This made me think about my own parents and how the best thing they can do is show a genuine interest in what I’m doing… which means they have to actually understand it, even if it’s beyond their own experience. I find when they pretend to be interested, I can tell, and that’s when the disconnect begins. I would explain more, if they’d ask more questions.

I know this is a random comment… maybe it’ll help a parent out there.

]]> By: Diane Bays http://mamawize.com/2010/02/questions-are-the-answer/comment-page-1/#comment-88 Diane Bays Mon, 08 Feb 2010 06:49:20 +0000 http://mamawize.com/?p=494#comment-88 After 25 years of parenting, question #6 is one that I think about a lot. Two kids are out on their own and the next two will leave next year. I am already getting answers to that question from the oldest two who both visited this weekend. I think it is relevant that one came on Sat and one on Sun. Why? They wanted all the attention for themselves. Not much has changed since they were little girls except that they fought over it at the time and now it is much more subtle. They each wanted to talk about their jobs, their dates (or lack thereof), they wanted to cuddle next to Dad on the sofa, enjoy a good meal, have me to rub their backs and then made such a fuss about it all that you would have thought we took them out to a four star restaurant and a play. So, for all the parents out there that think they have to try so hard to be the perfect parent, I hope I can encourage you to just love 'em to pieces, listen, listen, listen and sit down to dinner together every night that you can. This is what they will remember. After 25 years of parenting, question #6 is one that I think about a lot.
Two kids are out on their own and the next two will leave next year. I am already getting answers to that question from the oldest two who both visited this weekend. I think it is relevant that one came on Sat and one on Sun. Why? They wanted all the attention for themselves. Not much has changed since they were little girls except that they fought over it at the time and now it is much more subtle.

They each wanted to talk about their jobs, their dates (or lack thereof), they wanted to cuddle next to Dad on the sofa, enjoy a good meal, have me to rub their backs and then made such a fuss about it all that you would have thought we took them out to a four star restaurant and a play.

So, for all the parents out there that think they have to try so hard to be the perfect parent, I hope I can encourage you to just love ‘em to pieces, listen, listen, listen and sit down to dinner together every night that you can. This is what they will remember.

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