Questions are the Answer?
Dear Wize Mamas & Papas,
As some of you know, I offer consultations with families. The idea is to get parents the support they need to experience more harmony and less frustration at home.
I’m fascinated by the questions I get to ask…. designed to expand awareness and inspire parents to explore their feelings at a deep level. I think these are questions every parent should revisit now and then, to keep us mindful of our personal purpose and unique vision for our families.
I’ve chosen a few of the most thought-provoking questions to share here, and I invite you to ponder each one for yourself.
If it stirs anything up for you, let me know… I’d love to help.
- What are the core values and beliefs of your family? What is most important to you?
- How is your home set up to be comfortable and functional for every member of your family?
- In what situations do you wish someone would hand you the “official book of parenting” and, what is it about these situations that tends to overwhelm you as a parent?
- What about your child inspires you the most?
- What about your child mystifies you?
- What do you most want your child to remember about you as a parent?
And as always, this blog is about sharing diverse views on parenting… feel free to answer any of these publicly or add some of your own questions to the dialogue.
Let’s talk!
~Delila
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After 25 years of parenting, question #6 is one that I think about a lot.
Two kids are out on their own and the next two will leave next year. I am already getting answers to that question from the oldest two who both visited this weekend. I think it is relevant that one came on Sat and one on Sun. Why? They wanted all the attention for themselves. Not much has changed since they were little girls except that they fought over it at the time and now it is much more subtle.
They each wanted to talk about their jobs, their dates (or lack thereof), they wanted to cuddle next to Dad on the sofa, enjoy a good meal, have me to rub their backs and then made such a fuss about it all that you would have thought we took them out to a four star restaurant and a play.
So, for all the parents out there that think they have to try so hard to be the perfect parent, I hope I can encourage you to just love ‘em to pieces, listen, listen, listen and sit down to dinner together every night that you can. This is what they will remember.
As usual, I love your posts Delila… even though I’m not a parent. This made me think about my own parents and how the best thing they can do is show a genuine interest in what I’m doing… which means they have to actually understand it, even if it’s beyond their own experience. I find when they pretend to be interested, I can tell, and that’s when the disconnect begins. I would explain more, if they’d ask more questions.
I know this is a random comment… maybe it’ll help a parent out there.
THANKS DIANE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!